Listen, sometimes just explaining what all you are going through isn’t always received as an explanation but a complaint. Those who don’t understand that you’re explaining not complaining are just not meant to understand or even hear what you’re going through. Although you are needing to get out the emotional box and just breathe and explain, you just can’t to everyone. There will be someone safe you can talk to and share with no judgement. Those who can understand, listen, and show empathy will not take it as your complaint. There’s a difference between explaining what you been going through and complaining about what all you are going through. Know the difference and respect when someone needs to just talk in explanations.
Yesterday, I had a great conversation with my sister and something sparked this title. Soo let me explain: I decided to open up and give myself a chance to getting to know someone new. With the thought 💭 this would be a great opportunity to grow and groom through this process. Now I have been experiencing some one way territory yet I still stuck it out to Learn where can I grow and what about this is pushing me to some setbacks and past experiences. I begin to apologize more after my self reflection but I found myself giving more of myself than the other person. Yet, I still pleaded and begin to feel/look like I was chasing after someone who was still not seeing i was running empty from giving to them. Well, yesterday being my wake up call to the growth I have experienced through all the ups and downs, I accepted the end of this page. What I want to share is some lessons from the process: 1. It is not our business it one to help teach a person we are involve with ( if they don’t grow from y’all interaction, it’s not your place and don’t take on burden; learn and grow yourself) 2. Recognize and acknowledge when you are experiencing trigger points that you still need to heal from( it’s going to be ugly and a peel back before you heal; you can try to explain and communicate it but if the person isn’t open to meeting you where you are, be okay with a Goodbye) 3. It’s not easy getting back to the dating or social life and you won’t be fully ready but I believe you do have to date causal or interact social to learn, develop, grow before meeting your mate (this means taking risk of being vulnerable, open, being out your comfort zone, and healing ❤️🩹) 4. Don’t take what’s not working as a negative, see how you can grow and what you learn about yourself ( your likes, your dislikes, areas you find you need to grow in, love language, what hurts, what helps, Red flags you need to build in your awareness library, so take and learn) 5. Don’t become bitter but better. So these are just some recent lessons I wanted to share and hope it helps. These dating and social streets aren’t how they use to be. We need authentication, realness, truth, and safety(security). So allow others that time and space! Love-Love-Learn🫶🏽
Putting my heart on the line of risk. The time might be short but the effort is real. Though I’m still learning how you connect, my interest hasn’t been lost. How do we still misunderstand? There’s soo many maybes. Believe my feelings been on my sleeve. We both been through so much, I don’t know if we will be about to move pass ourselves. I’m hurting from each night we walked away more than we tried. Why is it so hard? Are we moving wrong? Can you see I’m trying to get this right once and for all? My heart ❤️ is full of tears 😭
No one is going to get your goals checked off but you. You are fully responsible for your dreams and purpose. Soo face the challenges. Get to it and get up early! True hustlers don’t just wait for the business to come to them, they go get it. The key is to focus on what you know you need to do and where you see yourself in full pursuit. When you’re focused on what you know you need to and you’re determined to pursue, you don’t let any excuses get in the way. You go harder for achieving your goals. Distractions may come and sometimes get you off guard, but you get right back to it and get it!!!! Go achieve your goal. Check something off your list as accomplished! You can do it! I believe in you!
It’s a lot of things, situations, and people we will have to just let okay be enough. Sometimes being okay with things is just best. Deviate from trying to make everything the way you want it to be. It saves you a little from stress, worry, frustration and energy. Everyone won’t be satisfied. Everyone won’t give more than one chance. Everyone won’t understand. Most of all everything won’t always turn out how you would want. So you have to sometimes be okay with things being okay. Being okay is okay! Have a wonderful day!
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