We donāt take enough time to look back at all weāve been through thus far. If we did, we will see we got through what weāve been through. We are here now. We are not where we use to be. Today I remind you and encourage you that you will pull through whatever youāre facing or going through now. You have gotten through all you been through in the past. Donāt lose hope or faith now. Keep holding on!
Listen, sometimes just explaining what all you are going through isnāt always received as an explanation but a complaint. Those who donāt understand that youāre explaining not complaining are just not meant to understand or even hear what youāre going through. Although you are needing to get out the emotional box and just breathe and explain, you just canāt to everyone. There will be someone safe you can talk to and share with no judgement. Those who can understand, listen, and show empathy will not take it as your complaint. Thereās a difference between explaining what you been going through and complaining about what all you are going through. Know the difference and respect when someone needs to just talk in explanations.
Yesterday, I had a great conversation with my sister and something sparked this title. Soo let me explain: I decided to open up and give myself a chance to getting to know someone new. With the thought š this would be a great opportunity to grow and groom through this process. Now I have been experiencing some one way territory yet I still stuck it out to Learn where can I grow and what about this is pushing me to some setbacks and past experiences. I begin to apologize more after my self reflection but I found myself giving more of myself than the other person. Yet, I still pleaded and begin to feel/look like I was chasing after someone who was still not seeing i was running empty from giving to them. Well, yesterday being my wake up call to the growth I have experienced through all the ups and downs, I accepted the end of this page. What I want to share is some lessons from the process: 1. It is not our business it one to help teach a person we are involve with ( if they donāt grow from yāall interaction, itās not your place and donāt take on burden; learn and grow yourself) 2. Recognize and acknowledge when you are experiencing trigger points that you still need to heal from( itās going to be ugly and a peel back before you heal; you can try to explain and communicate it but if the person isnāt open to meeting you where you are, be okay with a Goodbye) 3. Itās not easy getting back to the dating or social life and you wonāt be fully ready but I believe you do have to date causal or interact social to learn, develop, grow before meeting your mate (this means taking risk of being vulnerable, open, being out your comfort zone, and healing ā¤ļøāš©¹) 4. Donāt take whatās not working as a negative, see how you can grow and what you learn about yourself ( your likes, your dislikes, areas you find you need to grow in, love language, what hurts, what helps, Red flags you need to build in your awareness library, so take and learn) 5. Donāt become bitter but better. So these are just some recent lessons I wanted to share and hope it helps. These dating and social streets arenāt how they use to be. We need authentication, realness, truth, and safety(security). So allow others that time and space! Love-Love-Learnš«¶š½
Putting my heart on the line of risk. The time might be short but the effort is real. Though Iām still learning how you connect, my interest hasnāt been lost. How do we still misunderstand? Thereās soo many maybes. Believe my feelings been on my sleeve. We both been through so much, I donāt know if we will be about to move pass ourselves. Iām hurting from each night we walked away more than we tried. Why is it so hard? Are we moving wrong? Can you see Iām trying to get this right once and for all? My heart ā¤ļø is full of tears š
No one is going to get your goals checked off but you. You are fully responsible for your dreams and purpose. Soo face the challenges. Get to it and get up early! True hustlers donāt just wait for the business to come to them, they go get it. The key is to focus on what you know you need to do and where you see yourself in full pursuit. When youāre focused on what you know you need to and youāre determined to pursue, you donāt let any excuses get in the way. You go harder for achieving your goals. Distractions may come and sometimes get you off guard, but you get right back to it and get it!!!! Go achieve your goal. Check something off your list as accomplished! You can do it! I believe in you!
